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All about the Clit

The most underestimated organ is in the fast lane, and that’s a good thing.

By Anne Lomberg on November 17, 2023 -
Updated on November 18, 2023

Also available in German
Alles über die Klit

In case you didn’t know, the clit is the main source of female sexual pleasure. It measures an average of 4 inches in length and extends into the body. What we often refer to as the clit is just the outer part, the clitoral glans. It consists of more than 10,000 nerve fibers and is the most sensitive organ; this, in turn, is enclosed and protected by a foreskin. Inside and, therefore, the invisible part includes the clitoral shaft, the two clitoral thighs, and erectile tissue. The clitoral glans is primarily responsible for the feeling of sexual arousal and orgasm. The high nerve density is crucial. In comparison, there are far fewer nerve fibers in the vagina itself. For this reason, researchers now assume that the vaginal orgasm is directly related to the clitoris and that a distinction between vaginal and clitoral orgasm isn’t necessary. Incidentally, the so-called G-spot is part of the inner clitoris.

The right stimulation

Very few people reach orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone, and if they do, it’s because the clitoris is involved. As we have just learned, the erected point is closely linked to the clit. However, friction of the clitoral glans is also necessary to trigger climax. This can be done manually with your fingers, with selected vibrating toys, or during sex through rhythmic pelvic movements. Perhaps you have often found yourself circling your hips or building up pressure in different directions while masturbating – this is no coincidence because active reception is the key to orgasm. The clitoris swells just like a penis as it is a corpus cavernosum, and in fact, they initially develop from the same structure.

Since women are completely different, the clitoris is naturally also distinct in its appearance. But not only that, there are also some variations in terms of sensitivity. For this reason, you should really connect with your vulva and find out which areas react particularly intensely to stimulation. While some women apply direct pressure to the clitoral glans, others only occasionally touch this sensitive part in their masturbation routine.

My advice: Be willing to experiment. Use a mirror from time to time to watch yourself masturbate and observe which touches on which areas turn you on. Alternate between manual stimulation with your fingers and automatic stimulation with vibrators. Circle, tap, and drum until you can’t anymore! 🙂 No, seriously, as I’ve already mentioned in several articles, knowledge is power. Only if you explore your vagina extensively will you be able to achieve a wide variety of orgasms and understand how they arise. It’s a bit like squirting. Squirting is no witchcraft either, but a technique that every woman can learn. 

There is so much to try out in couple relationships, not only with toys, which I would definitely integrate from time to time, but also with different positions, finger techniques, or the penis in a heterosexual constellation. The riding position is the best position to stimulate the clitoris freehand with friction at the same time. For all other positions, I would include finger play or sex toys. The penis itself is a seductive tool for driving the clitoral glans with a gentle tapping technique or so-called pussy sliding crazy. The same applies here: experiment, be open, and, above all, communicate!

Fun Facts

The clitoris grows as you get older, but it doesn’t age. If that’s not a good outlook for anyone skeptical about age. This means that the older you get, the more intense your orgasms will be, as the clit is up to 2.5 times larger after menopause than during teenage years. The clit is also the only part of the body that does not age. It functions the same way at every stage of life as the ultimate source of pleasure.

It wasn’t until 1998 that the clit was fully discovered by Australian sex researcher Helen O’Connell. It was her study that made us aware of the extent of the clit in the first place, as previously, only the clitoral glans was referred to as the clitoris. The fact that there is a much larger organ hidden behind was and is revolutionary for many women. A realization that has been withheld from us for far too long.

G-spot and penetrative orgasms are clitoral. I just want to visualize this fun fact again because I think there is still too much fuss about this topic, especially regarding the ominous G-spot. Isn’t it much more relaxed to finally accept that the only organ capable of orgasm at least as far as this part of the female female genitalia is concerned, is our clitoris? It can lead to orgasms through external and internal stimulation, in combination with vaginal penetration or even without or both together.

The clitoris has nothing to do with reproduction but is an organ of pleasure. Great, isn’t it? While our history is designed to be as fertile as possible and bear children, this organ in our body has nothing to do with this at all. I find this realization more than inspiring. Knowing that we women are officially pleasure people, that we can play and experiment with this pleasure, is incredibly powerful.

Spot-on

The most underestimated organ is in the fast lane, and that’s a good thing. Female sexuality is taken much more seriously today and studied extensively. It’s no longer about fulfilling a task to satisfy the man as successfully as possible or settling for the usual processes of typical in-and-out play. It’s about much more, namely conquering our lust until we orgasm not just once, twice, no, but a whole bunch of times. It’s about no longer compromising when we feel unsatisfied and simply accepting this state in a relationship. We love our clit and all the sensual feelings it brings us, no matter what age. We can finally express our sexual needs because we know our clit, a newly discovered country, a marvel of female pleasure.

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